Tuesday, October 6, 2009

How to be a Better Dad

Today, more and more fathers are experiencing the satisfaction and reward of taking a more active role in the lives of their children. My husband can't describe his feeling when we had Jake and Justine. Having children completes his life. When I gave birth with Jake, the hospital gave us bunch of brochure for parenthood, motherhood and fatherhood that gives insights and guides being a new parent. I only read those papers and pamphlets intended for me as a mother and disregard the husband’s share of informative papers to read. However, parenthood and fatherhood is an instinct, no loads of books and brochure can measure the love you have for your kids. Every father has their own way of showing responsibility, dedication and commitment to their respective family and children. Anyhow, I want to share what I read of how to be a better Dad.

10 THINGS Every father Needs to Know and Do

1. Respect Your Children's Mother. One of the best things a father can do for his children is to respect their mother. If you are married keep your marriage strong and vital. If you're not married, it is still important to respect and support the mother of your children. A father and mother who respect each other, and let their children know it, provide a secure environment for them. When children see their parents respecting each other, they are more likely to feel that they are also accepted and respected.
2. Spend Time with Your Children. How a father spends his time tells his children what's important to him. If you always seem too busy for your children, they will feel neglected no matter what you say. treasuring children often means sacrificing other things, but it is essential to spend time with your children. Kids grow up so quickly. Missed opportunities are lost forever.
3. Earn the Right To Be Heard. All too often the only time a father speaks to his children is when they have done something wrong. That's why so many children cringe when their mother says, "Your father wants to talk with you." Begin talking with your kids when they are young so that difficult subjects will be easier to handle as they get older. Take time and listen to their ideas and problems.
4. Discipline with Love. All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set reasonable limits. Remind your children of the consequences of their actions and provide meaningful rewards for desirable behavior. Fathers who discipline in a calm and fair manner show love for their children.
5. Be a Role Model. Fathers are role models to their kids, whether they realize it or not. A girl who spends time with a loving father grows up knowing she deserves to be treated with respect by boys, and what to look for in a husband. Fathers can teach sons what is important in life by demonstrating honesty, humility and responsibility.
6. Be a Teacher. Too many fathers think teaching is something others do. But a father who teaches his children about right and wrong, and encourages them to do their best, will see his children make good choices. Involved fathers use everyday examples to help their children learn the basic lessons of life.
7. Eat Together as a Family. Sharing a meal together(breakfast, lunch or dinner) can be an important part of healthy family life. In addition to providing some structure in a busy day, it gives kids the chance to talk about what they are doing and want to do. It is also a good time for fathers to listen and give advice. Most importantly, it is a time for families to be together each day.
8. Read to Your Children. In a world where television often dominates the lives of children, it is important that fathers make the effort to read to their children. Children learn best by doing and reading, as well as seeing and hearing. Begin reading to your children when they are very young. When they are older, encourage them to read on their own. Instilling your children with love for reading in one of the best ways to ensure they will have a lifetime of personal and career growth.
9. Show Affection. Children need the security that comes from knowing they are wanted, accepted and loved by their family. Parents, especially fathers, need to feel both comfortable and willing to hug their children. Showing affection every day is the best way to let your children know that you love them.
10. Realize That a Father's Job Is Never Done. Even after are grown and ready to leave home, they will still look to their fathers for wisdom and advice. Whether it's continued schooling, a new job or a wedding. Fathers continue to play an essential part in the lives of their children as they grow and, perhaps, marry and build their own families.




Dhemz said...

pretty well said tsang...agi ko kadali..balik rako taod-taod....:)

Cecile said...

great tips, thanks for sharing, tsang :-)!

Chris said...

nice post!

sailor said...

Thank you so much for this tips Ms. Shy!

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