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Monday, October 19, 2009

Sibling Rivalry

Sibling Rivalry Toward a Newborn

This is what Jake feeling and experiencing right now towards his lil sissy Justine. You might see in the picture that he is sweet with Justine, yes he is most of the time, but don't get fooled because sometimes when he gets jealous, this little girl always gets his slap, swipe and kick. And what is funny though, despite of all the slap, hit, kick, swipe and more Justine always smile at him and look at him with admiration.

What is sibling rivalry?

Sibling rivalry refers to the natural jealousy of children toward a new brother or sister. Older siblings can feel jealous when the baby arrives until they are 4 or 5 years old. Not surprisingly, most children prefer to be the only child at this age. Basically, they don't want to share your time and affection. The arrival of a new baby is especially stressful for the firstborn and for the siblings less than 3 years old. The jealousy arises because the older siblings sees the newcomer receiving all the attention, visitors, gifts, and special handling.
The most common symptoms of sibling rivalry is lots of demands for attention. For example, the older child wants to be held and carried, especially when the mother is busy with the newborn. Other symptoms include acting like a baby again, such as thumb sucking, wetting, or soiling. Aggressive behavior for example, handling the baby roughly can also occur. All of these symptoms are normal. While some can be prevented, the remainder can be improved within a few months.
I got this source from Clinical Reference System and thought of sharing this to other new parents out there.








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17 comments:

chubskulit said...

Hahahaha, kahit nga ngayong malalaki na tong dalawa jelous pa din si rye pag pinagtutuunan ko ng pansin si EJ hehehe

Meryl (proud pinay) said...

naalala ko tuloy nung bata pa ako..nagkakaselusan din kaming magkakapatid sa attention ng parents...ganyan talaga pag mga bata pa ^_^ ang cucute ng pictures ng mga anak mo ^_^

Tetcha said...

What adorable kids you have, Shy! I love the last pic pero nahirapan ata si Justine dyan. Hehe! Sibling rivalry is natural. It's our role as parents to properly guide our kids how to handle this thing.

Anonymous said...

hahhaha.....bisan tawon sipaon si blonde...idol japon nya si kuya...how sweet.....:)

ka cute sa duha nimo nga mga angels tsang woi...big boy naman kaau si jake sa....malingaw jud ko ug tan-aw nila duha....

si brown eyes ug hazel eyes....hehehehe...hope when they grow up...wala untay sibling rivalry...hehehe!

pero murag d malikayan tsang...kay murag pinalabon permi ang manghod...just like what sis bakla rose have said.....hehehhe....

mura man sad ug nag pa studio ning duha sa...hehehhe....

agi ko dire kadali tsang...katagakon na akong kalimutaw...late napod ko tawon nag update woi...pagka busy sa life lagi...hehehehe!

LIFE,MARRIAGE AND KIDS said...

sibling rivalry is common among brother and sisters. Jake is still to young to understand but eventually his feeling of jealousy will turn to protectiveness towards his sister. clearly even at Justine's young age she already adores her big brother. ka sweet pud intawon sa gamay uy.. wait lng ka manoy kay inig daku daku ni justine ikaw napud ang iya kulatahon,lol....Thank God shy kayla never showed any sibling rivalry towards kaitlyn even now nga 6 na siya.. they do have momenst nga mag away, hinapakay,tinukmoray, komotay,paakay but they end up making up and laughing again.

Justine your looking so gwapa na as in..you have amazing eyes like your brother jake.

Seiko said...

Well,normal lang talaga ang sibling rivalry hindi yata mawawala yan & it's your duty now on how to handle things better kaya mo yan Shy hehe.
Ang cute cute talaga ng mga kiddos mo & Justine ang laki na ang bils talaga no parang kelan lang.
Hays ang sarap yakapin ng baby talaga.

Lulu said...

nice pics... pero siguro gikapoy na si justine sa last pic... ingon siguro sya unsa man ni inahan nga hapit na ko mamatagak! no more pics please... mao siguro na hunahuna na justine...

bitaw, dalia ra nidako ni baby juz oi....

David Funk said...

Wow, such cute kids you have! I really like that last pic. I think it is cute how much Justine adores her big brother in the pics.

Thanks for sharing Shydub!

Lisa said...

Sos Shy, kadako na ni Jake, kuya na ang dating...oo natural ang jealous especially na ang more attention nimo sa cutie girl....gusto pod niya attention!!Jake really kuya na ang porma...

Willa said...

Maybe at first he got excited but now he realized that li'l princes got more attention that him and he started feeling the jelousy towards her or pwede din,he really want her to play with him but she can't yet and he become frustrated.I never experienced that with Patrick maybe because he really want a li'l brother, I don't remember or see him secretly hurting Kendrick, actually until now, si Kendrick pa nga ang minsan nananakit sa kuya nya,even the way they play, Kendrick is the rough one.
But I think it takes time, pag nag start na mag play si Justine, ma appreciate na sya ni Kuya Jake. :)

Mel Avila Alarilla said...

Yes it is normal to have sibling rivalries between two siblings especially if their age gap is very close. Nagseselos yung matandang bata sa bago niyang kapatid dahil me kaagaw na siya sa atensyon ng kanyang mga magulang. The remedy here is to give the older child extra time and to explain to him/her why he/she should loved the baby. The rivalry can still remain as they grow older with the younger one being spoiled and the older one being the aggressor. Nurturing them in the word of God and in prayers can help lessen the problem of sibling rivalry. Just let both of them know that you equally love both of them. Thanks for the meaningful post. God bless you always.

Clarissa said...

It's normal to have sibling rivalry--ganyan din si Wakaba kay Haruka dati.Napapansin ko si Wakaba sa pagseselos nya so ang ginawa ko nasa kay Wakaba ang attention ko at dahil maliit pa naman si Haruka nun,it's either ang Dad nya ang nagbabantay kay Haruka o di kaya ang MIL ko para walang selosan.It will pass and it's better if you ask help from your loved ones there.^_^

Andrea said...

I am scared to have another baby for this reason! Even though it's normal it still can't be easy. I'm hoping that if I wait another year to get pregnant Logan will have an easier time, but I'm sure sibling rivalry can't ever be completely avoided. It's so obvious Jake and Justine love each other - these pictures are adorable - hopefully they will end up the best of friends!

Cecile said...

i love these pictures, Tsang ka gwapa ug gwapo imong kids uy; kanong kano eh :-); hugs to the both of them!

Anne said...

Tsang ang imung J&J pareha na jud ug dagway hehehe! sauna abi ko lahi ra si Justine... nibilog naman pareho oi... Kamao na sad mag selos hahaha...

Bambie dear ★ said...

i never experienced rivalry with my sister.. siguro dahil sa age gap na din. I think i wouldn't know what to do if ever man sa magiging mga anak ko mangyari. Definitely i would ask for your advice..

CUte ng mga kiddos mo.. babies are like angels talaga, they just always smile hehe =) goodluck sis ang give my hugs to your kids

Lindz said...

tong dalawa ko hindi sa atensyon nag aaway sa mga laruan nag aagawan, kung ano ang meron yung isa kailangan meron ding yung isa hayyy

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